I have three girls and only one is obsessed with her blankie. The other two had attachments to particular things that offered a soothing effect but gave them up before starting school.
So does that mean my middle child is more likely to be emotionally immature, unable to self sooth or obsessive in some way? Apparently not.
The technical term is “transitional object”. An object an infant attributes special value that enables them to make the shift to object relationships. They are something that helps the child connect with the world outside of their parents.
It is widely believed that having a comfort object can actually help encourage children to feel more secure during new experiences and be more focused and outgoing than children that don’t have such an object to fall back on. It offers a type of security that allows the child to explore and be adventurous.
And when the time comes that your child makes the decision to get rid of their blankie, unlike the feeling of loss and abandonment they will feel if it is taken from them unwillingly, they will have a sense of accomplishment and empowerment as they consciously take another step towards emotional independence.
And if this never happens? Well, up to 35% of adults keep access to some form of blankie from their infancy – so, probably not the worst thing that could happen.
The research does ring true for us, Scarlett is certainly the best risk taker in the family and only time will tell if/when she is ready to give up her blankie what kind of a str
ong and confident person she will be.